Breaking generational curses!

"I'm breaking generational curses!"

BREAK

If only Do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend at school? was replaced with, Do you have an idea for a game kids your age could play?

If only Girls don't dress like that was replaced with, What was your inspiration for your outfit?

If only When are you getting married? was replaced with, When are you starting your own business?

If only you recognised your own discomforts and not disrupt my comforts.

If only you had made different choices instead of criticising mine.

If only we were not constantly compared to someone you thought was doing better than us.

If only we were praised for thinking outside of the box and not criticised for it.

If only Creativity was praised as much as marriage in our society.

If only the expectation to break generational curses didn't rest solely on our generations' shoulders.

If only you would let us break these generational curses instead of telling us how to break them.

If only you didn't comply with or possibly create those generational curses.

US

If only we stopped trying to 'break generational curses'

If only we stopped making it a fashionable term.

If only we stopped calling them curses.

If only we stopped...

If only...

...

I finally get it.

We could never really blame them. They don't know what to do.

It's easy to go to a bachelorette, wedding, or baby shower (tangible milestones). But how do you celebrate the 'creative' and the 'academic' (abstract milestones)?

While you're having your third child, I'm getting my third degree.  While pregnant or preparing for a wedding; they expect prayers, words of encouragement and "ooohhs and aaahhs" complimenting their progress.
No one can see the progress of your thesis, therefore they don't know how to react. So what do we expect? Encouragement, prayers, and 'you're doing well' would be nice. But how can they when they see no evidence? 

Bringing it to expectations.  People want you to do good based on their expectations of you.  Based on their subjective viewpoint. This is why the wedding, baby, house, and car is easy to celebrate and the achievements of a creative/academic are not.
Also because the creative and academics have their own definition of success and have shifted out of the 'system' created by society to create their own path.  So how can we expect them to understand?  Hence we remain quiet, have 'lonely' moments and have to continuously be our own source of encouragement. (picture)

We academics and creatives cannot blame them, they simply do not know how to respond.

I finally get it.

#noexpectations #understanding