If you knew…

...how harmful something was for you out, would you stop? 

How toxic that person is, would you leave?

How your actions are hurting someone, would you change?

How negative your thinking is, would you be more positive? 

How inauthentically you are displaying yourself, would you want to be more authentic?

How your comfort brings you pain, would you choose discomfort?

How much potential you really have, would you reach for more?

How your life was going to pan out, would you live differently? 

How amazing you are, would you own it?

How free you are, would you act like it?

Would you?

SM🌹

The Year of Two

Simone Momplé

This year taught me that playing it safe will have you feeling anxious and fearful, but trying things will have you feeling the same, with just a little twist of excitement. I’ve heard it before, but now I believe it. 

This year I did things that I was afraid of doing. Afraid that people might let me down. I was afraid to step up because what if it fails and those people who have always looked up to me or believed I could make anything work will no longer do so or they will be disappointed. I felt those uncomfortable feelings and did it anyway. Sometimes my fears came true and sometimes the complete opposite. 

I started this year feeling helpless and not knowing what I wanted to do with my life…again. Staying the same did bring me comfort, but it brought depressive thoughts and anxieties. I thought that if I am gonna sit with this comfortable pain then I cannot preach about pulling the thorn from your foot if I am the one choosing to walk around with it. 

This year taught me that allowing these uncomfortable feelings to just exist gives you a chance to see why they are there. These feelings are not meant to make you stop living, they are meant to show you why it is such a beautiful thing to be alive. People might say that I only have these insights in retrospect, obviously! The clarity of thought cannot come when the tape is running on auto. What I did realise in the midst of the auto-play was that I had a choice. I can do nothing and continue to feel this way, or I can try something and maybe, just maybe I will feel better. I chose one thing to focus on at a time… 

Fitness. I started with just 10 minutes of workout, and I ended up joining the gym and teaching more which upped my fitness levels and led me to feel the most confident in my body. 

Then diet. I chose to eat more vegetables and fruit, and I ended up doing a 60-day no sugar, no alcohol diet that made me feel more myself and healthy! 

Then my creative and artistic side. I started dancing again and drawing now and then, I ended up doing a writing course and producing a quite few new choreographies for the year. 

Then spiritual. I started by meditating at least 10 minutes a day (not every day), I ended up doing a 7 session empowering, focused and uplifting coaching programme with a life coach that proved I was the only one holding myself back from greatness and my success while I was blaming others for it. I even learnt about my human design and what I need to do in life to live a life of purpose. 

Then business. I started this year by attempting dance workshops again (after the 2-year break) and I ended up with a registered company which brought in financial and marketing benefits. This company also ended the year with its first production ever! 

This year I took on new experiences and I let go of ones that no longer served me. How do you know if they don’t serve you? Simply examine each experience and ask if it is pulling you forward into new possibilities or is it pulling you back or is it making you feel stuck right where you are. 

This year I lived out the slogan of my company GODANCE: ‘be YOU in a world of them’. 

I now ask you the question, who are you in this world of them?

Read my follow-up article here:

Things You Should Rethink In 2023

Congratulations! 🙌

 

How hard do you have to work to hear that? 

Well, you don’t always have to. 

Congratulations!

Congratulations for taking deeper breathes when you felt overwhelmed. 

Congratulations for distracting yourself when you found it hard to focus. 

Congratulations when you found the courage to get up and go for a walk when you really wanted to just lay there. 

Congratulations for choosing to tell yourself you’re stronger than you think right now. 

Congratulations for making yourself reach out when you really wanted to isolate. 

Congratulations for doing an extra push-up when you wanted to quit. 

Congratulations on simply being aware of that negative pattern of thoughts returning. 

Congratulations on choosing to not go down the rabbit whole of negativity.

Congratulations for knowing when to talk and when to be quiet. 

Congratulations for understanding yourself a little better every day.

Congratulations for writing this. 

Congratulations!

Are you lonely or alone?

I'm angry, I'm upset, I'm frustrated. 

I'm at peace, I'm happy, I'm fulfilled.

I feel discouraged by what I see.

I feel encouraged through what I see.

I just want to be left alone and cry.

I just want to be with myself and breathe.

My heart is heavy.

My heart is full.

I want to be happier.

I am happy.

I am lonely.

I am alone.

What's the point of life?

What's the point of life?

Reality (Part 2): Is your happiness real?

Happiness is incomplete without you.

Is your happiness real?

What makes you happy?
Is it your job? Your partner? Your friends/family? A hobby?
What makes you truly happy?
I am sure you have been asked this question before. Did you notice the follow up questions all relate to your external reality, therefore I am leading your thinking in a certain direction? Was that purposeful? Maybe...maybe not. It would be great to know what your answers were though.  In Reality Part 1 I addressed what you considered to be your reality, and so you would probably answer these questions based on your perception of reality...External manifestations or an internal feeling (such as happiness linked to purpose).

What determines whether you are happy or not?
Let's begin by addressing what happiness is to you. I have experienced people who place their happiness in a person, an object or an activity. The tricky part with doing that is when that person/object/activity is not in your physical, immediate existence, they are unhappy. And then what? Sometimes we place our happiness in obtaining something:
 "Once I achieve this goal, then I'll be happy."
If this is how your ‘reality’ works, then please tell me, how long did your happiness last once you achieved that goal; or once you obtained that item? Our human existence has us searching for happiness in things and in others. I believe we have it twisted…why should the happiness only come after the 'thing'? Once you have the latest phone, you’ll be happy.  Once you get that job you’ve been waiting for, you’ll be happy.  Once you earn a certain amount every month, you’ll be happy. Once you get married to that special person, you’ll be happy.
What if I told you that you could be happy regardless of your external reality? Would you believe it is possible? Would you believe that you don’t need a single thing on this planet to make you happy (besides you)?

This is how our ‘reality’ works.
Thought > vibration/energy > feeling > manifestation.  We have a thought > it sends out a vibration > we then feel a certain way and then something > manifests. For example, you think about coffee. A vibration is sent out and you feel a desire to have coffee and know that having coffee will make you happy. So you imagine it, breathe deep and smile. A short while later, someone offers you a cup of coffee…it has manifested! Notice how you felt the feeling before you had the coffee?! Imagine applying that to everything in your life? 

But I’m currently going through a rough patch.
So something is currently making you feel bad in your human existence. How does this concept of making 'happiness a reality' fit this situation? Simple, you ignore it. Ignore what is and any aspect in your physical reality that doesn’t please you, because ‘what is’, is old news. NOW, this moment, is all that is real. Whether you think about your past – you are doing it NOW, whether you imagine your future – you are doing it NOW. This very moment is the only thing you can control and it is the only thing that is real! NOW is where it is at, this is the only place that satisfaction can occur. So breathe deep, let go of the feeling holding you hostage and release yourself into the happy feeling place… no matter what your situation or circumstance, you can feel good! No matter what, don’t ever feel bad about feeling good! You have a right to feel good…always. 

Do you set goals for yourself?
Great! Do you allow yourself to be happy before they manifest? Here’s something many are not ready or open to hear:

Everything you’ve ever wanted, do want or will ever want, already exists…all you need to do is call it into your existence.

How? The very first time you think about something and it follows with a feeling…DONE! That is how it is created! All you need to do now is to continue feeling good and it will manifest. Yes, that’s it, feel good FIRST and then everything you want will flow to you in abundance! Our society has made us believe that we must obtain what we want first, and then the happiness will follow. Why wait to be happy, when you can feel it now?

Do you ever feel stuck?
Sometimes I feel stuck at certain points in my life. I am not sure which step I should be taking next. I then ask myself: "What am I doing with my life?!" This leads to frustration. I realise that this happens when I run ahead of myself to obtain happiness found in situations/things/goals. At these times I need to slow down to allow myself to catch up to myself. I do this by doing less and being more. As soon as I do this and I am whole again, I am happy, instantly! I no longer feel stuck, I feel at peace with my life. I. FEEL. HAPPY. 

Society: “What do you want?”
ME: “I want to be happy.”
Society: “What makes you happy?”
ME: “Being happy makes me happy.”
Society: “You must be crazy!.”
ME: “The crazier I am, the happier I am.”

I. AM. HAPPY. Under all conditions, I choose to feel happy. I am unconditionally happy! And no, this does not mean I bounce off the walls with energy all the time because I am filled with so much happiness!
Happiness is peace. Happiness is deep breathing. Happiness is satisfaction. Happiness is gratitude. Happiness is letting all the barricades down and letting yourself radiate who you truly are, because who you truly are IS happy!

Your life is supposed to feel good to you!
Does it?





Reference:
Some of the above concepts have been referenced from Abraham Hicks Teachings.