If you knew…

...how harmful something was for you out, would you stop? 

How toxic that person is, would you leave?

How your actions are hurting someone, would you change?

How negative your thinking is, would you be more positive? 

How inauthentically you are displaying yourself, would you want to be more authentic?

How your comfort brings you pain, would you choose discomfort?

How much potential you really have, would you reach for more?

How your life was going to pan out, would you live differently? 

How amazing you are, would you own it?

How free you are, would you act like it?

Would you?

SM🌹

The Year of Two

Simone Momplé

This year taught me that playing it safe will have you feeling anxious and fearful, but trying things will have you feeling the same, with just a little twist of excitement. I’ve heard it before, but now I believe it. 

This year I did things that I was afraid of doing. Afraid that people might let me down. I was afraid to step up because what if it fails and those people who have always looked up to me or believed I could make anything work will no longer do so or they will be disappointed. I felt those uncomfortable feelings and did it anyway. Sometimes my fears came true and sometimes the complete opposite. 

I started this year feeling helpless and not knowing what I wanted to do with my life…again. Staying the same did bring me comfort, but it brought depressive thoughts and anxieties. I thought that if I am gonna sit with this comfortable pain then I cannot preach about pulling the thorn from your foot if I am the one choosing to walk around with it. 

This year taught me that allowing these uncomfortable feelings to just exist gives you a chance to see why they are there. These feelings are not meant to make you stop living, they are meant to show you why it is such a beautiful thing to be alive. People might say that I only have these insights in retrospect, obviously! The clarity of thought cannot come when the tape is running on auto. What I did realise in the midst of the auto-play was that I had a choice. I can do nothing and continue to feel this way, or I can try something and maybe, just maybe I will feel better. I chose one thing to focus on at a time… 

Fitness. I started with just 10 minutes of workout, and I ended up joining the gym and teaching more which upped my fitness levels and led me to feel the most confident in my body. 

Then diet. I chose to eat more vegetables and fruit, and I ended up doing a 60-day no sugar, no alcohol diet that made me feel more myself and healthy! 

Then my creative and artistic side. I started dancing again and drawing now and then, I ended up doing a writing course and producing a quite few new choreographies for the year. 

Then spiritual. I started by meditating at least 10 minutes a day (not every day), I ended up doing a 7 session empowering, focused and uplifting coaching programme with a life coach that proved I was the only one holding myself back from greatness and my success while I was blaming others for it. I even learnt about my human design and what I need to do in life to live a life of purpose. 

Then business. I started this year by attempting dance workshops again (after the 2-year break) and I ended up with a registered company which brought in financial and marketing benefits. This company also ended the year with its first production ever! 

This year I took on new experiences and I let go of ones that no longer served me. How do you know if they don’t serve you? Simply examine each experience and ask if it is pulling you forward into new possibilities or is it pulling you back or is it making you feel stuck right where you are. 

This year I lived out the slogan of my company GODANCE: ‘be YOU in a world of them’. 

I now ask you the question, who are you in this world of them?

Read my follow-up article here:

Things You Should Rethink In 2023

And one day...

 ...it will click.

It will feel perfect, comfort will embrace you;

but not a worry comfort, a peaceful comfort.

And one day it will make sense, the lows will disappear and make sense.

Your whys will be answered by 'This' day.

You'll understand like you have never ever before.

And one day you will be everything you want.

You will smell your favourite fragrance and it will fill your body with pleasure.

Nothing will seem out of reach.

And today could be that one day.

Be ready. 

Don't resist like you did that other day. Embrace yourself...

...today, now, right now,

and in this very moment; so that one day will feel normal.

So that one day can be felt today.

Breaking generational curses!

"I'm breaking generational curses!"

BREAK

If only Do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend at school? was replaced with, Do you have an idea for a game kids your age could play?

If only Girls don't dress like that was replaced with, What was your inspiration for your outfit?

If only When are you getting married? was replaced with, When are you starting your own business?

If only you recognised your own discomforts and not disrupt my comforts.

If only you had made different choices instead of criticising mine.

If only we were not constantly compared to someone you thought was doing better than us.

If only we were praised for thinking outside of the box and not criticised for it.

If only Creativity was praised as much as marriage in our society.

If only the expectation to break generational curses didn't rest solely on our generations' shoulders.

If only you would let us break these generational curses instead of telling us how to break them.

If only you didn't comply with or possibly create those generational curses.

US

If only we stopped trying to 'break generational curses'

If only we stopped making it a fashionable term.

If only we stopped calling them curses.

If only we stopped...

If only...

...

If the mind really spoke...

"It's the umpteenth time I think about and strategise it. 

When they say you never knew, you’ll never know.

When they say reach out, it's conditional.

IDGAF no more.

Do nothing.

Carry on.

Bye."

Congratulations! 🙌

 

How hard do you have to work to hear that? 

Well, you don’t always have to. 

Congratulations!

Congratulations for taking deeper breathes when you felt overwhelmed. 

Congratulations for distracting yourself when you found it hard to focus. 

Congratulations when you found the courage to get up and go for a walk when you really wanted to just lay there. 

Congratulations for choosing to tell yourself you’re stronger than you think right now. 

Congratulations for making yourself reach out when you really wanted to isolate. 

Congratulations for doing an extra push-up when you wanted to quit. 

Congratulations on simply being aware of that negative pattern of thoughts returning. 

Congratulations on choosing to not go down the rabbit whole of negativity.

Congratulations for knowing when to talk and when to be quiet. 

Congratulations for understanding yourself a little better every day.

Congratulations for writing this. 

Congratulations!

It's so dark without you...

It’s so dark without you here. 

Why did you leave me when I needed you most? 

Why did you leave when you heard what they said? 

Why did you leave when you saw them pointing and snickering? 

Weren’t you supposed to stay then more than ever? 

Wasn’t that the time you were meant to support me? 

How did this happen?

 

It’s so dark without you with me.

 

It’s lonely without you.

 

It’s scary when all I hear is their laughter and ridicule.

 

You were so confident when they were not around.

 

When it was just you and me, it was beautiful and bright.

 

We shared joy and love in all moments.

 

We had it so good, why do you keep leaving?

 

Where are you?

 

Are you coming back?

 

Are you coming back to silence them?

 

Or am I meant to find you?

 

Do I have to move from this dark place?

 

I don’t know how, or where to go!

 

You used to guide me when I asked these question in the light.

 

Please come back to me...please!

 

Their ridicule is getting louder now. Why are you silent?

 

*breathe* *breathe* *breathe* 

*breathe* *breathe* 

...wait, I remember something… 

...I remember something you said… 

You told me that you will always be there for me. 

That you will never leave me and that you will always support me...always! 

So what happened?! Was it me? 

... 

It is me! I made this happen! 

I have allowed their voices to get louder...louder than yours! 

Their ridicule is only their doubt. 

Their doubt is only their fear. 

It’s not even about me. 

They are merely projecting.

*breathe* 

I’m sorry for doubting your faithfulness… 

You did always have my back!

It was me who blocked the light, me who stopped listening.

Me who allowed their voices to fill the space between you and I.

This needs to stop.

I need to be so close to you that your voice is the only one I hear.

I will latch onto you so strong that darkness doesn’t get a chance to creep in.

We will reunite and never split; with our vision back on our future and on what’s good for us,

We will thrive.

We. Will. Thrive.

Ambition, I love you.